Fraternities and Sororities: Parents’ Frequently
Asked Questions
Parents often have questions about the Greek Community on campus,
so the Parent Program has worked with the leadership of the Panhellenic
and Interfraternity councils to address some of the most commonly
asked questions. For more information, see www.umn.edu/fsl as well
as the U of M Greek Web page at www.begreek.org.
• My student is thinking of joining
a fraternity/sorority. What
is the process?
• What are the benefits for
my student in joining a fraternity or sorority?
• What happens if my student wants to move out of the residence
hall and into a fraternity or sorority’s chapter
house?
• What are the financial obligations of
Greek membership?
• Can my son or daughter be a part of a chapter if they live
at home?
• How much of a concern is alcohol at
fraternities and sororities at the University of Minnesota?
• Is hazing a concern
for fraternities and sororities at the University of Minnesota?
• Why are there some things fraternity and sorority members
can’t
talk about? What’s the big secret?
• Is it safe to live off campus in
the Greek community?
• How will being Greek affect my student’s grades?
• Are there specific honor societies for
Greek students?
My student is thinking of joining a fraternity/sorority. What is
the process?
Joining a fraternity or sorority is a mutual selection process.
For fraternities it is best for your son to visit several chapters
in order to find the best fit for him. After multiple visits the
chapter may choose to offer your son a bid. With the sororities,
women have the opportunity to visit every chapter during formal
recruitment. After several visits to each chapter, your daughter
will have the opportunity to select her top three choices, and
she will then be matched up through the mutual selection process.
What are the benefits for my student in joining a fraternity or
sorority?
The University of Minnesota is a large campus, and joining a chapter
allows your student to become part of a close, tight-knit support
group within the larger campus. By being part of the Greek community,
students have a chance to create bonds with people who have similar
values and goals, while also finding leadership opportunities throughout
the campus and the Twin Cities community. Members say that they
have met some of their best friends and created some of their favorite
memories while being a part of their chapter.
What happens if my student wants to move
out of the residence hall and into a fraternity or sorority’s
chapter house?
The Greek community and Housing & Residential Life work together
to provide the maximum number of clean, comfortable living spaces
for University of Minnesota students. When the residence halls
are at or above capacity, Housing & Residential Life cooperates
with fraternity and sorority members in allowing students to move
out of the halls and into a fraternity or sorority chapter house.
In many cases, Housing & Residential Life will allow fraternity
and sorority members to move out between the Fall and Spring semesters,
and sometimes during the first half of the Fall semester.
What are the financial obligations of Greek membership?
A common misconception is that being a part of a fraternity or
sorority is financially burdensome and unaffordable. There are
membership dues that your son or daughter will be responsible
for paying each semester, but the upside is that there are several
opportunities to receive scholarships within the community. National
organizations, councils, and individual chapters offer scholarships.
If your student chooses to live in the chapter house, dues and
living expenses may turn out to be lower than the cost of living
in the residence halls.
Can my son or daughter be a part of a chapter if they live at
home?
Of course! Greek membership can be a valuable experience, regardless
of whether the student is living at home, in a residence hall,
or in a fraternity or sorority chapter house. As a commuter, your
son or daughter would be responsible for paying his or her chapter
dues, but would not be responsible for paying room and board. Most
chapters offer a certain number of meals per week as well a “townie
room” where chapter members who live out of the house can
stay if they decide to spend the night on campus. Off-campus students
find Greek membership provides them with a place to hang out between
classes, a place to study, and a support group of friends.
How much of a concern is alcohol at fraternities and sororities
at the University of Minnesota?
Although the common stereotype is that fraternities and sororities
enable binge drinking and reckless behavior, U of M chapters work
hard to dispel such stereotypes. Fraternities and sororities are
required to follow very strict and detailed risk management policies,
which are established by both their respective national organizations
and governing councils. In addition, the sororities at the University
of Minnesota do not permit alcohol at any time on their properties.
The Greek community at the University of Minnesota focuses on educating
men and women on the dangers of binge drinking and of drug and
alcohol abuse. They emphasize responsible drinking behaviors. The
newly formed GAMMA chapter is an organization of Greek students
that provides educational information and programs to the members
of the Greek community. Additional information on GAMMA can be
found at: www.bacchusgamma.org.
Is hazing a concern for fraternities and sororities at the University
of Minnesota?
The University of Minnesota, the Interfraternity Council and the
Panhellenic Council have a zero tolerance policy with regard to
hazing. No member is allowed to take part in any form of hazing
as a new or current member of his or her chapter. Hazing also is
against the state law of Minnesota. Additional information, including
the state law against hazing, can be found at: www.stophazing.org.
Students who feel they are being subjected to hazing are urged
to speak up immediately or to notify the Student Activities Office
at 612-626-6919 or the University Police at 624-COPS (2677). If
you suspect your student has been or is being hazed, you are also
urged to call the Student Activities Office or the University Police.
Why are there some things fraternity and
sorority members can’t
talk about? What’s the big secret?
It is understandable that you as parents might be concerned if
you hear that some of the things that go on during your son or
daughter’s initiation are to be kept secret. Initiation into
a fraternity or sorority is an exciting, yet serious, ceremony
that conveys the purposes and special values of the respective
fraternity or sorority. These ceremonies often are referred to
as rituals. Greek chapters pride themselves on the rituals that
their chapters were founded upon. These rituals are full of the
traditions and values that make the chapters unique. However, these
rituals should not be confused with hazing, and other inappropriate
activities. Fraternity and sorority initiation ceremonies are,
in most cases, single day events. If your student is not permitted
to talk to you for extended periods of time, hazing may be an issue,
and you should contact the appropriate authorities.
Is it safe to live off campus in the Greek community?
Chapter houses are located primarily along University Avenue or
a short distance from campus. Some are on the St. Paul campus.
For those chapter houses that are a short distance from campus,
there are several resources available to your student. Chapters
usually have lists of people who are willing to give rides or
escort chapter members to and from classes. Also, the Escort
Service is available by calling 624-WALK. This resource is provided
by the University of Minnesota and provides escort service for
students going between campus and their chapter houses and homes
near campus. In addition, several members of the Panhellenic
Council have been working with the Minneapolis City Council to
install improved lighting throughout the neighborhood and in
darker areas around campus. Campus safety issues are a priority
for the Greek community.
How will being Greek affect my student’s
grades?
Some parents worry that the extra social events and responsibilities
of being in a fraternity or sorority might take away from their
student’s time for academics. Being Greek is a time commitment,
but one of the core values of fraternities and sororities is
academic excellence. Each chapter sets standards for academic
expectations. If members do not meet their requirements, there
are several resources available for students to receive assistance.
Often chapters organize incentives and awards for the most improved
GPAs or the best GPAs. Study exchanges and competitions are also
very common. The Greek community realizes the importance of a
quality education, and academic excellence is a priority.
Are there specific honor societies for Greek students?
Your student will have the opportunity to join Rho Lambda, Order
of Omega, and other Greek honor societies. Membership for these
groups is based on academic excellence as well as student involvement.
See www.begreek.org for
more information on the U of M Greek community.
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